Hi, I'm Trevor GrayPsychotherapist, Counsellor and Performance Consultant
I’ve worked in performance all my life - as a Top 10 Music Recording Artist, Producer and Composer, as well as an EPL Premiership Football Academy Youth Development Coach - so I have extensive experience in performing in the arts and sport at a high level.
Now I’m a psychotherapist, counsellor and performance consultant working in Central London and Tunbridge Wells, Kent - using my experience and training to help people with issues such as anxiety, depression, stress, abuse, personal relationships and self-esteem, whether in the performing world or not.
My clients have included West End, professional and student actors, dancers, musicians, singers and TV presenters, as well as professional and academy footballers, cricketers, golfers, show jumpers, swimmers, Team GB gymnasts, rowers and fencers.
I am a Registered member of both the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the British Association for Performing Arts Medicine (BAPAM) - if you’re looking for someone to talk to, give me a free no obligation call to see if I can help.
BA Hons, MBACP, MBAPAM, PG Dip TA Practice
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A skilled practitioner who leads you to greater self-awareness, with humour and in a safe environment
"Trevor provided a safe yet challenging place for me to explore issues and beliefs about family and relationships."
I have learnt to be more understanding to myself and not be afraid to say no when I am unable to help
Mother of Aspiring Musician
"Looking back to when I first was recommended to Trevor Gray, I now realise how much stronger I have become mentally to cope with my everyday life challenges, and able to support my family with their personal issues."
Trevor worked miracles in just weeks, after decades of mental health issues & suicide attempts
"If anyone is reading this whilst going through a crisis - my experience is that Trevor Gray can help."
Rebalancing my life
"My work life had taken over and led to a breakdown. Working with Trevor helped me rebalance and establish what was important to me."
Happy daughter restored to her usual self
Mother of Academy Cricketer
"Problems that I had thought may be insurmountable at the beginning soon revealed them to be manageable."
Trevor combined knowledge and empathy to help me make positive choices
"Trevor's patience, understanding and insight are helping me rationalise my thought processes and clarify them into positive action."
Helpful to understand the situation better
"The sessions helped me understand the situation I was in from other people’s perspectives and especially their motivations and power relationships that shaped the dynamic."
"The therapy helped to develop myself and to have a greater awareness and understanding of how my past and the relationships that I have, have made me the person that I am."
"I wish I could have a chat with Trevor every week. After every session I would have a burst of energy and feel light and positive about life."
Highly recommend Trevor Gray Therapy
"The sessions were a great help in talking things through but also gave me the ability to start to look at things when the sessions had finished and I am now better equipped to deal with situations."
Feeling much more able to cope
"Trevor's approach enabled me to be clearer in my thinking and more balanced with regard to the possibilities of failure - I have regained much of my earlier resilience."
Relaxed style, great listener
"Trevor is relaxed and intuitive, a great listener and supportive in every way. His help finding insights as to why I had run into mental health problems were invaluable, and he helped me steadily on the road to recovery."
How Trevor helped me to move forward
"Trevor helped me to address my past to help me to come to terms with my uncertain future."
I've worked with a number of industry professionals
Bill Nighy, actor
"The trouble is that confidence is a movable feast."
Michael Phelps, swimmer-most successful and most decorated Olympian of all time
"For the longest time, I thought asking for help was a sign of weakness because that’s kind of what society teaches us. That’s especially true from an athlete’s perspective. If we ask for help, then we’re not this big macho athlete that people can look up to. Well, you know what? If someone wants to call me weak for asking for help, that’s their problem. Because I’m saving my own life."
Wil Wheaton, actor
"One of the primary reasons I speak out about my mental illness, is so that I can make the difference in someone’s life that I wish had been made in mine when I was young, because not only did I have no idea what Depression even was until I was in my twenties, once I was pretty sure that I had it, I suffered with it for another fifteen years, because I was ashamed, I was embarrassed, and I was afraid."
"If there’s anyone out there going through it [depression], I think for them to see that I went through it would help. Because for a long time I used to think that soldiers don’t go through that. You know? Like, strong people in life, the bravest, the most courageous people, they don’t go through that, they just get on with it. Like any person I admire or look up to hasn’t felt like this. They just pick themselves up, you know what I mean and that’s not the case… So for me it was like this is what I’ve dealt with… I felt it’s important for me to let people know that."
Gisele Bündchen, model-author-actor
"Sometimes we feel alone, as if there is no way out, but that is not true. My panic attacks were difficult, and I sought help from my family, specialists, teachers, and friends. Asking for help is never a sign of failure but a sign of strength because your life is worth saving."
Ariana Grande, singer-songwriter-actor
"lmaoaoo this is funny as f--k but in all honesty therapy has saved my life so many times. If you're afraid to ask for help, don't be. u don't have to be in constant pain & u can process trauma. i've got a lot of work to do but it's a start to even be aware that it's possible."
Dakota Johnson, actor
"Sometimes I panic to the point where I don't know what I'm thinking or doing. I have a full anxiety attack…. I have them all the time anyway, but with auditioning it's bad. I'm so terrified of it."
Selena Gomez, singer-songwriter-actor
"I wish more people would talk about therapy. We girls, we're taught to be almost too resilient, to be strong and sexy and cool and laid-back, the girl who's down. We also need to feel allowed to fall apart."
Jon Hamm, actor
"I struggled with chronic depression. I was in bad shape after both of my parents died within 10 years of each other. I did do therapy: it gives you another perspective when you are so lost in your own spiral, your own bullshit. It helps."
Katy Perry, singer-songwriter
"The biggest lie that we've ever been sold, is that we as artists have to stay in pain to create."
Lady Gaga, singer-songwriter-actor
"I have struggled for a long time, both being public and not public about my mental health issues or my mental illness. But I truly believe that secrets keep you sick. Depression doesn't take away your talents - it just makes them harder to find. But I always find it...You just have to...find that one little light that's left. I'm lucky I found one little glimmer stored away."
Dwayne Johnson, actor
"I found that with depression, one of the most important things you can realise is that you’re not alone. You’re not the first to go through it, you’re not gonna be the last to go through it. I fell into a deep depression. Struggle and pain is real. We’ve all been there on some level or another."
Ellen Degeneres, television host-actor-writer-producer
"I moved out of L.A., went into a severe depression, started seeing a therapist and had to go on antidepressants for the first time in my life. It was scary and lonely. I can't believe I came back from that point."
"I'm very available to depression. I can slip in and out of it quite easily. It started when my granddad died, when I was about 10, and while I never had a suicidal thought, I have been in therapy, lots."
"What I love about therapy is that they'll tell you what your blind spots are. Although that's uncomfortable and painful, it gives you something to work with."
Winona Ryder, actor
"You have good days and bad days, and depression’s something that, y’know, is always with you."
Catherine Zeta-Jones, actor
"[Depression] is a disorder that affects millions of people and I am one of them. There is no need to suffer silently and there is no shame in seeking help."
Lili Reinhart, actor
"When I was in middle school, I was struggling with severe anxiety and depression and the help and support I received from my family and a therapist saved my life. Asking for help is the first step."
Cara Delevingne, model-actor-singer
"Being vulnerable is actually a strength and not a weakness — that's why more and more mental health is such an important thing to talk about. It's the same as being physically sick. And when you keep all those things inside, when you bottle them up, it makes you ill."
Michelle Obama, author
"We should make it clear that getting help isn’t a sign of weakness — it’s a sign of strength — and we should ensure that people can get the treatment they need."
Demi Levato, singer-songwriter
"You can live well with a mental health condition, as long as you open up to somebody about it, because it’s really important you share your experience with people so that you can get the help that you need."